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Ally :
both can be toxic wag puro sisi sa avoidant typa shi bruh
2026-04-25 19:54:02
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sàint :
Being a psych major has taught me that being avoidant isn't just a 'personality trait'—it’s usually a survival tactic for people who were taught that being vulnerable is dangerous. We need to have empathy for that struggle, but we also have to be clear: trauma explains behavior, but it doesn't excuse hurting others. Avoidants still have the responsibility to heal and be honest about their capacity for a relationship. If you’ve been left or neglected by an avoidant, your pain and anger are completely valid. You deserve accountability. Moving forward is about holding two truths at once: understanding where they are coming from, but setting firm boundaries so you don't get drained. Real change takes time and therapy, but it can happen if everyone is willing to do the heavy lifting
2026-04-26 08:21:35
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k :
no to situationship ✊
2026-06-02 11:47:26
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jawi :
crazy how the world suddenly throws hate on avoidant people. relationship goes both ways. kung alam mong avoidant ka, wag pumasok sa relationship. same goes for the other: don’t do the “i can change you” mindset. as an avoidant myself, i changed myself not because the person who loves me wanted me to change, but because i want to change myself. easy, no need to go and throw all the hate.
2026-05-28 18:18:00
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_xayteya_ :
daming rason sa comment section, kung ayaw magbago daming rason.
2026-04-26 03:32:16
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coffee☕🤍 :
🥹🥹🥹 ang sakit magmahal ng avoidant people they will leave you guessing
2026-04-25 11:23:14
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cramrealll :
true love gusto, therapy ayaw?
2026-04-26 01:26:31
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UP :
as avoidant and have self awareness, di ko po siya ini-iwan, nawawala lang po ako kase mahirap saken ang dumipende sa tao pag may problema ako, avoidant are kind people kase, ayaw nila mandamay ng iba at sanay silang pasanin yung problema nila, and I know that is my redflag, pero bumabalik po ako sa kaniya, kailangan ko lang talaga ng space minsan, baka yang tao na sinasabi niyo is di talaga avoidant, kundi nawalan na talaga ng gana sainyo.
2026-04-25 12:54:38
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blaue_ :
Then don’t bother people who has an avoidant. I was once in this kind of situation. I was an avoidant, I wasn’t planning to enter in any romantic relationship. Not until this guy entered and tried to climb my walls. I was straight to him since the very beginning. That I did not want him. Yet he still choose to pursue me over and over again. But the ending was still me leaving him because I know to myself that I wasn’t ready. I hope before you all judge a person with an avoidant attachment, made sure to know their side of story first. Don’t blame it all on us.
2026-04-26 17:24:37
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⋆˚࿔ ᗰ𝜗𝜚ｎ˚⋆ :
Crazy how people think avoidant people are born avoidant like hell no, huwag na huwag niyong isisi sa avoidant na tao kung bakit naghiwalay kayo at nasira rs niyo. Did you ever stop and think on how a person's action can change the other? Hindi malamang, ginamit mo nga Empathy kesa Sympathy eh.
2026-04-26 03:13:23
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kuromii466 :
As someone who's dealing with an avoidant rn, we should NOT rlly put all the blame to them. We anxious need to live our own lives too. Kasi if you really like someone, matutunan mo din maging secure and be that kind of person na hindi lang umiikot sa isang tao yung mundo. Love that person but love and diversify your life, too. Regulate without them. Shift your mindset. Stop the blame and be secured enough lang na they will always be there naman :)
2026-05-27 16:18:16
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luv_endeer_tufourand5 :
as an avoidant, I apologize
2026-06-02 05:20:56
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Sevyie :
nananahimik ako tapos sila yung pumipilit na pumasok kase "it's okay" daw I told them na di okay yung mag stay sila sakin tapos ngayon iiyak sila
2026-05-27 03:29:59
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Allison :
I think the message is valid, especially from the perspective of someone na nasaktan by avoidant behavior. When someone enters your life, makes you feel safe, then suddenly pulls away without clarity, sobrang nakakalito at masakit talaga. Yung confusion at emotional pain na naiiwan, totoo yun, and people who experience that have every right to feel hurt and even angry. But at the same time, I don’t fully agree with saying “wala akong empathy for avoidant people.” Avoidant attachment usually comes from unresolved wounds, fear, trauma, or emotional patterns na sila rin mismo nahihirapan. It doesn’t excuse hurting people, but it helps explain why they act that way. Some avoidant people are not trying to manipulate, minsan they genuinely just don’t know how to handle closeness without feeling overwhelmed. So for me, accountability and empathy can exist together. Yes, if you’re not ready, huwag kang pumasok sa buhay ng tao at iwan silang may dalang confusion. But healing isn’t always simple, and people are more complicated than just “good” or “bad.” In short, valid yung pain, but blanket hate for avoidant people feels too harsh naman. Understanding someone doesn’t mean tinotolerate mo yung bad behavior, it just means you’re willing to see the full picture.
2026-04-29 06:20:05
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Alessanduh~ :
anong huwag manggugulo, nananahimik ako tapos sila yung pilit pumapasok. 😭
2026-04-26 03:48:55
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rie :
Siguro instead of mag sisihan, we can acknowledge na may pagkakamali on both sides. kung alam mong may avoidant tendencies yung tao, sana pinili mo rin protektahan sarili mo instead of forcing something na alam mong masasaktan ka and sa mga may avoidant tendencies, sana wag muna pumasok sa relationship kung hindi pa healed, kasi hindi lang sarili niyo yung naaapektuhan—may ibang taong nasasaktan din
2026-04-26 16:25:42
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mih†` :
For others, Yes being avoidant is hard, but what about us people who keeps on persuing and loving you guys? Do y'all think di rin to mahirap for us? We entered a rs for commitment, at hindi sa kung ano ano. We always choose to understand, and love y'all, pero tao din kami. Pakiramdam namin kami lang tong nag acction at nag papakita ng pag mamahal. Yes, I know that having a avoidant attachment is hard due to the fact its a cope mechanism— but come on? hahayaan niyo lang ba na gawin yang reason na yan? we also have our own trauma, but we choice to change for the person we love, so sana kayo din.
2026-04-26 11:43:27
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🧷 :
"huwag kayong manggugulo ng tao kung iiwan niyo rin naman pala sa huli"—but what if kayo rin naman ang nagpumilit pumasok sa buhay nila? let’s not always blame avoidant people because, believe me, they’re trying to work on it. i think most avoidants wouldn’t even entertain someone first or start a relationship, kasi alam nila kung paano sila. so if nagkaroon man sila ng bf/gf, trust me, it took a lot of courage to reach that point. or baka naman, hindi avoidant ’yung mga nakakausap niyo—baka uninterested lang talaga. please remember this: there’s a difference between someone who’s avoidant and someone who’s uninterested.
2026-04-27 19:36:03
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Alyxx :
sorry for my avoidant attachment ha! i think i dont need to explain my side na since some of you guys ay sasabihin na naman na reason nanaman yan pero ma say ko lang rn some of use choose to distance our self for our own peace po sorry if sarili namin iniisip namin
2026-04-26 14:29:59
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Designated Driver :
Empathy is not 'awa' btw. That's sympathy.
2026-04-25 21:59:57
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ian :
Y’all are being to one sided, both has its own sides. Hindi yung naka base kayo sa sarili nyong perspective. As an avoidant person there’s actually a reason why we distance and distance even more, lalo na pag na I invalidate we can fix any problem as long as makiki pag coordinate din kayo how bullshit to say na wag na kaming pasok sa relationship just because of the wall that we built to guard our selves.
2026-04-28 09:20:08
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Mae (Alessio's girl) :
dude wag mo isisi lahat saamin kung bakit kami naging avoidant at may reason kami, hindi naman kami maging ito kung wala reason eh. tsaka minahal ko din ang tao pumasok sa buhay ko pero may other time kasi lumalabas paging avoidant ko kung may mali na siya ginagawa, we deserve to be loved too and understand us, at kung avoidant kami hindi namin deserve mahalin? let's say Both can be toxic kung may nangyayare sa relationship na hindi mo alam pero wag mo naman invalidate feelings namin without knowing the real reason behind the avoidant behavior we have.
2026-04-26 00:48:58
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William H. :
Sorry but it's the opposite for me. Siya ang pumasok sa buhay ko after how many times I ignored him, hanggang sa I opened up pa unti unti then at the end titigil siya. I don't know kung sino talaga sa aming dalawa ang avoidant, lol!
2026-04-26 11:06:06
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양, el :
i wish people actually understood that being avoidant is just a battle between wanting to be loved and being totally terrified of it. we’re usually our own biggest victims, losing people we really care about because our brains just choose survival over everything else. it takes so much energy to even try lowering those walls, and when people attack us, it just proves EXACTLY why we built them in the first place. we’ve been through way too much to not have these walls up, and we deserve validation for how hard we’re trying to heal, not more hate for the only way we knew how to cope. and honestly, for the people saying "having an avoidant attachment doesn't mean you have to hurt someone", nobody is doing this on purpose. it’s not like we're planning to mess with you. It’s just that when things get too real, our instinct is to just back off before we get hurt first. It sucks for us just as much as it does for you, maybe even more, because we're the ones losing people we actually like just because we're scared. (#)
2026-04-29 01:04:51
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